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What do you do with a family member (30-years-old) who is still living with parents (70-years-old) and has just presented them with a second out-of-wedlock child? This person has a history of drug and alcohol abuse and other family members have tried to address this situation in the past. We are thinking of doing some kind of intervention session and somehow forcing this person into counseling, etc. We can't just throw them out with two kids and one a newborn. Help!
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I am not going to go over how this woman has been enabled and not helped by being allowed to keep abusing and exploiting her family. She has never had to grow up and face the natural and logical consequences of her actions. I say all this, full well knowing that it appears totally inhumane to kick her out of the house with no plan for any alternative survival.

Your thoughts of an intervention are on target. This intervention needs to be well-orchestrated so that feasible options are presented to her. Support and understanding will be provided by the family if she acts responsibly; those are the conditions. She can utilize whatever state and federal programs are available to support her kids and herself. Family members can decide how or if they will fit into her climb back to maturity and responsibility. A timetable must be set and adhered to. Seeking the assistance of a skilled family therapist would certainly be helpful at this critical time. I wish everyone a good result from this effort.

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