Another concern is her social skills. She seems to get left out at friends' birthday parties or if there is more than one child involved in a playtime event. She is also overweight and it's been a real struggle to curb her eating. She has gained 10 pounds just this summer. She is very active -- she plays with the neighborhood kids and plays recreational soccer. Any suggestions?
Talk with the school counselor about screening your daughter for learning differences with regard to her reading difficulty. It's often hard to tell what problem comes first and leads to the others, but her reading, her weight, her social skills, and her self-esteem could all be tied together. Ask the school counselor to give your daughter some individual time or include her in a small group.
You also may want to get some family counseling for you and your daughter outside the school. The school counselor or your pediatrician can refer you to a therapist in your community.