Quiz
1. My mother has the ability to quickly and frequently make me feel guilty.
2. I frequently feel that what I say or do may not be perceived as good enough by my mother.
3. I find myself acting like an adult -- except when I am around my mother.
4. I do not stop my mother from interfering in my marriage or private life.
5. Sometimes I either indulge myself with food or withhold it from myself to cope with the feelings I have toward my mother.
6. I live with the hope that one day my mom will change, suddenly appreciate me, and be receptive to what I have to say.
1. My mother has the ability to quickly and frequently make me feel guilty.
No
2. I frequently feel that what I say or do may not be perceived as good enough by my mother.
No
3. I find myself acting like an adult -- except when I am around my mother.
No
4. I do not stop my mother from interfering in my marriage or private life.
No
5. Sometimes I either indulge myself with food or withhold it from myself to cope with the feelings I have toward my mother.
No
6. I live with the hope that one day my mom will change, suddenly appreciate me, and be receptive to what I have to say.
No
A string of "Yes" answers demonstrates that you undoubtedly have the affliction. None of the above conditions is a happy, healthy, or satisfying way for a daughter to live. However, this is not the final, definitive test of your relationship.
If you have been a particularly compliant daughter, you may be surprised by this revelation. For others, the quiz may merely confirm your suspicion that it is Mom who is driving you crazy, and that your relationship needs some serious work!
If you answered mostly "No," your mother-daughter relationship appears to be on a healthy course with regards to communication, respect, appreciation, and mutual understanding.