How Does Parental Mental Health Affect a Child?

Many parents struggle with their mental health. This is very concerning because their children may have more difficulties growing up. Let me tell you why.  

How Does Parents’ Mental Health Affect Their Child? 

When parents struggle with their mental health, they are less able to take care of their children, they pay less attention to their children’s needs, and the quality of the family’s life gets worse. Parents may be harsher with their children or may be distant from them.  

Children who grow up with parents who struggle with their mental health, experience more stress. Growing up with a lot of stress is not good for children. These children are more likely to have worse mental health and to face difficulties growing up. They may grow up feeling insecure and experience distress.  

However, it is important to note that the experiences of growing up with a parent who has mental health issues are very different. It is not the same for a child to grow up with a parent that is often hospitalized because they experience severe mental health issues, than growing up with a parent that has one episode of a mental health issue during their life.   

Mothers’ Mental Health Matters from Pregnancy 

Mothers’ mental health influence their child even before the child is born. When women have very high levels of stress ⁽¹⁾ during pregnancy, their babies are more active in utero. When they are born, they are more likely to be hyperactive and irritable, and to have feeding and sleeping issues. 

Sadly, 1 in 5 pregnant women or new mums develop a mental health issue. Why? Because during this period, women go through a tremendous change. Everything changes: their body, their identity, their relationship with their partner…Basically, everything.  

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Depression Is the Most Common Mental Health Issue for Mothers  

Women may develop many mental health issues: anxiety, PTSD, mood disorders…. But the most common one is postpartum depression. It is estimated that 1 in 10 women develop postpartum depression.  

When a mother is depressed, she is less responsive towards her baby. She talks less, smiles less, and is more detached from her baby. Consequently, her baby becomes less responsive and more apathetic ⁽²⁾. And this is bad for the baby’s development. Babies needs to be stimulated to develop fully. When a mother is depressed, she finds it difficult to stimulate her baby.  

Babies of depressed mothers also interact in this way with adults that are not depressed. And because these babies are more apathetic, the adults around them tend to respond to them, in a less positive way.   

Depressed mothers ⁽³⁾ are more likely to: 

• Not engage with their babies.  
• Have more difficulties interpreting their baby’s emotions.  
• Find parenting more difficult. 
• Experience hostility and resentment toward the baby. 
• Neglect or abuse their babies. 

As a consequence, their babies are more likely to: 

• Experience growth and developmental delays. 
• Develop an insecure attachment.  
• Experience poor cognitive functioning.  
• Suffer affective disorders later in life. 
• Develop behavioural problems. 

Fathers’ Mental Health Also Matters  

Fathers’ mental health ⁽⁴⁾ and how it affects their children is a relatively new area of research because until quite recently fathers were not as involved in their children’s life. We now know that fathers’ mental health also matters. When fathers struggle with their mental health, their children tend to be negatively affected.   

Postpartum depression is the mental health issue that is most common amongst fathers and the one that has been examined the most. It is estimated that 1 in 10 fathers experience postpartum depression.  

Children ⁽⁵⁾ of depressed fathers are more likely to: 

• Have a difficult temperament  
• Experience long term mental health issues  

Do Mothers’ and Fathers’ Mental Health Matter Equally? 

We know that the mental health of mothers and fathers influence their children’s development. But it seems that this effect is not the same.  

It seems that in the case of the mothers, it is their mental health that directly influences their children. Whereas in the case of fathers, it is not so much their actual mental health that influences the children, but the socioeconomic difficulties ⁽⁶⁾ that usually go hand in hand with the fathers’ mental health issues.  

Indeed, parental mental health issues rarely happen on their own. Parents who struggle with their mental health, often also experience unemployment, financial difficulties, family conflict, or may use drugs and alcohol.  

In general, it is worse for children when their mothers have mental health issues, than when their fathers are the ones struggling with their mental health. However, as you can imagine, the worst situation for a child is when both parents have mental health issues.  

Parents Influence Each Other 

Mothers’ mental health influence fathers’ mental health and vice versa. And they both influence the child’s mental health.  For example, fathers-to-be ⁽⁷⁾ are more likely to be depressed and anxious when their pregnant partner is depressed. Roughly a quarter of mothers with postnatal depression ⁽⁸⁾ have a depressed partner.  

The opposite dynamic may also happen. Sometimes when the mother is depressed, the father may take increased responsibility to compensate the mother’s poor parenting ⁽⁹⁾. Mothers may do the same when the father is depressed. 

How Can Parents Take Care of their Mental Health? 

• Learn about mental health and parenting 

• Talk to others about how they are feeling 

• Seek advice from a mental health professional  

• Eat well 

• Do some exercise 

• Stay connected with friends and family 

Finally… 

If you are struggling with your mental health do not struggle in silence and do not go through it alone. Get in touch with me, our therapists are here to help you.  

You may find these articles useful: 

• Who Mothers the New Mother? 
• Can Men Get Postpartum Depression? 
• Matrescence: Are We Finally Understanding Motherhood 

Love, 

Ana 

Dr Ana Aznar 

For more information check out these popular topics:

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