Q
My son has decided to attend a local college, despite his acceptance into a school that's well-known for his intended field of study. This prestigious school isn't close to our home. My wife believes he's made this decision so that he can stay close to his girlfriend, rather than on the merit of the schools. I've accepted his decision, and have been reassured by him that he made his decision based on where he feels comfortable and not because of his relationship. Am I being naive?
A
Your son may or may not be telling you the truth behind his decision not to attend the "better" college. If he chose to attend a college solely because of its proximity to his current girlfriend, that would be an unfortunate decision on his part. Let's hope that the college he has chosen will be a good fit for him and that he will have the opportunity to pursue all of his academic interests.
I hope that your son takes full advantage of all the opportunities offered to him in college life and does not cloister himself away with his girlfriend, shunning activities that will add breadth to his college experience.
I would adopt a supportive attitude about his choice of college, telling him that you will respect his choice until he gives you cause not to honor it. Your wife should know that she contributes nothing positive if she maintains a disappointed, "you're only going there so you can be close to your girlfriend. You don't fool me," attitude toward your son.