How to Handle Teacher Conferences
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After the conference
Review the meeting with James. In the same way that you prepared for the teacher conference, have a James conference. Do it the same day while your impressions are fresh and James's interest is piqued. If his aunt accompanied you to see the teacher, be sure to include her in this conference. Give an honest rendition, using your notes as a reference. If applicable, ask his aunt to describe the meeting from her vantage point. You brokered a deal with the teacher on James's behalf, so run down the action plan and the roles that you, James, and the teacher each have in that plan. Ask James if there is anything in the action plan that was overlooked or misconstrued from his vantage point. Were the issues he raised in your initial interview with him addressed? Review the milestones and interim goals in the plan so that he is clear about the entire plan.Display the nice manners your mother taught you. Be sure to thank the teacher for his or her time and efforts by mail, e-mail or phone. Reconfirm your mutual course of action, and promise to keep him or her posted.
Put the plan in action and follow it up. Together with James, mark the milestones and interim goals on James's personal calendar that's posted in the kitchen. Or if he's a techno-guy, he can log the dates on his handheld computer. If he has a cell phone, he can enter dates and set them to beep using the calendar programming feature. Do this to ensure that he participates in his own "change equation." Then, follow up by phone, e-mail, or letter on the recommendations made during the conference. Did you contact that creative writing tutor? Are you helping James study for social studies quizzes by implementing the teacher's idea to construct a visual timeline? Demonstrate that you valued the teacher's suggestions by acting on them.
Maybe the most shocking way to get James's mind off music, cars, and girls and back toward schoolwork would be to put this chapter on teacher conferences in his hands and have him do the entire thing himself. Teachers have been known to change grades when a student takes initiative, makes changes, and works hard to show he's got the will and the drive to make it happen. This approach would gives James the self-control and independence a fifteen-year-old yearns for within the safe parameters a forty-year-old adult can live with. Then when his grade point average exceeds his percentage of coolness achieved, you'll both have something to party about.