My child usually:
- Approaches others positively;
- Expresses wishes and preferences clearly; gives reasons for actions and positions;
- Asserts her rights and needs appropriately;
- Is not easily intimidated by bullies;
- Expresses frustrations and anger effectively and without harming others or property;
- Gains access to ongoing groups at play;
- Makes relevant contributions to ongoing activities;
- Takes turns fairly easily;
- Shows interest in others; exchanges information with others appropriately;
- Negotiates and compromises with others appropriately;
- Does not draw inappropriate attention to self;
- Interacts non-verbally with other children with smiles, waves, nods, etc.
Healthy social development does not require that your child be a "social butterfly." The quality, rather than quantity, of a child's friendships is the most important index. Keep in mind that your child may simply be more shy than others, and it may be counter-productive to push such children into social relations which make them uncomfortable.
You are a model for your child's development of social skills. She will imitate how you interact with your friends and make new friends. Also, your response to her social interactions are very important. Be sure to praise her positive social interactions, such as greeting a classmate at the park in a friendly way.
Turning your home into a welcome spot for neighborhood children will make socialization easier for your daughter. Also, enrolling your child in activities that she enjoys will help her meet children with whom she can feel comfortable because they share similar interests.