Also, in a recent conversation with her friend's father, I mentioned that my daughter wasn't allowed to go to a particular house because there was no supervision there. Apparently, his daughter had been going there, but he wasn't aware that there was no supervision. She ended up getting in trouble and isn't allowed to go there anymore. My daughter is quite angry with me. This doesn't feel good at all. I really feel bad, but at the same time I'm glad he knows. How do I make my daughter see that I'm only looking out for her?
You have explained your opinions and your values to your daughter regarding this issue. You and she may respectfully disagree on this topic, but you need to make your parenting decisions based on what is best for your child. I think you have made your decisions in a most reasonable manner. Parenting isn't a popularity contest and we should expect some disagreement, anger, and resentment from our maturing, independent-minded teens. As for your "ratting out" this girlfriend of your daughter who had her parents believing that she was with her friends in a parentally-supervised home, this girl is learning the consequences of lying. You revealed this information in the course of a regular conversation and shouldn't feel guilty that his girl's lie was discovered as a result of this discussion.