Let's break this habit down into smaller parts that we can identify and work on. First, you must keep a journal and write down every time you yell. Keep three columns on one page of the journal. In one column write down the exact time you yelled and how long the yelling lasted (e.g., 8:20 a.m.-8:23 a.m.). In the next column write what caused you to yell (e.g., my son wouldn't stop teasing my daughter). In the third column write down how your children responded to your yelling (e.g., they cried, my son yelled back). Review your columns at the end of each day and write down how much less you are going to yell the following day.
Two more behavioral techniques: Set up a "yelling chair" in one room of your house. Select certain times of the day when you will go into that room, close the door and yell in your designated yelling chair, as much and as loudly as you choose. Also call Parent's Anonymous and ask them if you could set up a buddy system with one of their members to call them when you either feel you are about to yell or have begun yelling. Additionally, I would require you hug and say kind words to your kids as you do eight times each day; keep count to make sure you meet that total and write down your kids' responses to your hugs and kind, loving words each time you give them. Keep me posted . You will turn this habit around and take pride in doing so.